Umm Sulaym (Rumaysa bint Milhan)

Islam as a Dowry

When Abu Talha sought to marry Umm Sulaym — Rumaysa of Banu Najjar — she answered: “Are you not ashamed to worship a tree? If you accept Islam, I will ask no other dowry from you.” He embraced Islam, and the Prophet ﷺ remarked as he saw him approach: “Here comes Abu Talha with the radiance of Islam shining between his eyes.” 1 Hayatus Sahaba · Vol 1 · pp. 215 — Kandhlawi — Umm Sulaym requires Abu Talha's Islam as her dowry; the Prophet praises the radiance of his Islam.

Patience at a Son’s Death

When their young son Abu Umayr died while Abu Talha was out, she washed and shrouded him, then served Abu Talha his supper without a word; only afterwards did she ask him, “What if a man lends you something and asks for it back?” — and so broke to him the news. The Prophet ﷺ said: “Because of her patience at the death of her child, Allah has placed another in her womb.” A son Abdullah was born, and the Prophet ﷺ performed his tahnik with chewed dates. 2 Hayatus Sahaba · Vol 2 · pp. 600–601 — Kandhlawi — Umm Sulaym's patience at her son's death; the Prophet promises and blesses her next child, Abdullah.

A Dagger at Hunayn

At Hunayn, Abu Talha came laughing to the Prophet ﷺ — Umm Sulaym carried a dagger. Asked what she meant by it, she answered that she would stab any disbeliever who drew near her; and the Prophet ﷺ smiled. 3 Hayatus Sahaba · Vol 1 · pp. 571 — Kandhlawi — Umm Sulaym at Hunayn with a dagger to defend herself; the Prophet smiles.